In honor of the end of Ford Entertainment Magazine, we’ve decided to reprint all our past interviews!! Catch up on all the articles you may have missed! This week, we’re reprinting the articles from the September 2010 Issue of Ford E. Mag. Enjoy!
By Paige Diamond
A lot of women are still in the Stone Age and think that sex is for the enjoyment of men, not them and the sole responsi-bility of their sexual satisfaction is in the hands of their partner. Nothing could be farther from the truth. The myth that all women are just supposed to be ready as soon as a man’s dick gets hard is no more truth than a man’s penis automatically gets hard when he is turned on. The same is true for painful sex- hurts so good. Sex isn’t supposed to be painful (unless that is what you signed up for of course) it is supposed to be a pleasurable experience for both partners. Many women feel that they are abnormal if they don’t have a satisfying sex life, failing to understand that there are many factors that can contribute to being unfulfilled.
According to the National Health & Social Life Survey, approximately 15% of women experience painful sex. This of course ladies is not a good look. When I refer to painful sex, I do not mean that it’s just intercourse- the pain can be in the genital area (vulva), the vagina itself or other areas such as your pelvis. Pain most commonly occurs upon entry of the va jayjay, with deep thrusting or with touching, stroking or the vulva. Some may experience muscle spasms, cramps of muscle tightening while others may include new or worse pain, discharge and pain during or following intercourse. While painful sex is considered a female sexual dysfunction, it is not the only type. A few female sexual dysfunctions that are pain related are vaginismus, dyspareunia and noncoital sexual pain disorder. The reasons for painful sex vary but most commonly I have found that they are:
1. Vaginal dryness
When I would do my workshops and adult novelty events, no product got the most resistance than lubrica-tion. No one wanted to admit that they don’t have a juice box, well at least not some time. Everyone claimed to have as Jeezy put it, “That Aquafina flow”, which quite frankly is a bunch of bullshit. Sorry ladies I have to call you out on this! Vaginal dryness is not abnormal. It has
nothing to do with age or how good your pussy is. You can experience it if you are on birth control pills, have a vaginal infection, just had a baby, you’re breast feeding, and have other medical problems. I can’t stress enough that lube is your friend.
2. Lack of arousal
When it comes to lack of arousal, you have to keep in mind that the average female needs about 25 minutes of foreplay to be turned on to the point that she is self lu-bricated enough to have great sex. If you rush into sex too fast not only can it be painful for you, but also for him because of the friction caused by the thrusting
Infections can come in various forms- yeast and urinary tract infections.
4. Allergic reactions
May women experience allergic reactions from the types of feminine hygiene products they use.
5. Skin conditions
This includes skin problems such as eczema, psoriasis for example. They contribute heavily to this condition.
When it comes to pain it can be because of a variety of issues. For instance vaginal tightness can be because your hymen isn’t stretched (which is a lesser severe condition than vaginismus), pain of the clit can be due to improper hygiene if secretions are trapped underneath the hood of the clitoris when not washed correctly as well as pelvic pain.
Types of Pain
Primary: pain that has always been there when there is any sexual stimulation to your genitals.
Secondary: pain that has developed over time that was at one point free of symptoms.
Complete: pain experienced during the entire sexual expe-rience.
Situational: only happens when certain positions and type of stimulation is involved.
Superficial: pain is experienced at the entry of penetration.
Deep Thrust: pain that is located in the lower stomach re-gion or cervix
Now all pain doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you. Some pain can be rectified with a change in sexual posi-tion or more lubrication. Incorporate sex toys into your sexual regime to allow you to find ways that penetration can be enjoya-ble for you as well as to help you in getting your vaginal muscles accustomed to penetration. Do not keep going you will trauma-tize the kitty and it can leave you with a negative outlook on sex in your future. Keep in mind there are many ways to express your sexuality with your mate. I know y’all hot asses don’t want to hear this but get back into the essence of intimacy. Start to interact more and experiment.
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